Using own knowledge and experience to solve problems or asking other people for advice?

           Everyone live in many problems that they have to solve. Regarding this issue, there has been a controversy about whether people should get over their hard time on their own with their knowledge or solve problem with help from others. Some demand that solving their own problem by themselves is important for people to develop their ability to overcome obstacles. However, I believe that it is better to listen to advices from other people because other people might give great solution that the one who is having problem would never think of and people tend to see other people’s problems more correctly than their own problems.

            First of all, when a person has a problem, he/she will have much more choices of solutions as that person asks other people for advices. Since everyone has different view of understanding the problem, there would be various solutions that the person who has problem can think of. If someone try to solve their obstacle on his/her own, limited mind might block some creative solutions for that. When I was in middle school, I had to decide whether I go to saipan to study or not. I was not going to go to saipan at first time, because I did not want to be apart from my family and study alone. However, my mom told me that studying abroad would be a great experience and helpful for me to get into good colleges. Now I know that if I stayed in Korea back then, I would have suffer from stresses about college application in Korea because Korean high school students, especially, have hard time to get into good colleges. Without my mom’s advice, I would not have made my decision to go to saipan and study.
          
            Secondly, People tend to ignore the base of problem of their own when it is their fault. In other words, other people can judge a problem fairer than the one who has a problem. Many people forget what they have done and just blame others for their problems. If these people try to overcome the problem on their own, that problem would never be solved because they don’t know that the base of problem is themselves. These people need other people who can tell what their fault was. One of my friends had a serious problem with her other friends and all she did was just blaming on her friends and telling me that how bad they were. However, everyone knew that she was the problem and I had to tell her about her behave. It was hard for me to tell her honestly but I told her that she has to change herself first to make the friendship better. I was kind of worried if she would get mad about that, but, fortunately, she realized her fault and changed herself. Like this, people have to tell other people and get people when they have problems. Keeping own problem as a secret is not good for anything.  

            It better for people to share their problems with others because just to feel being understood can be the best consolation. Thus, people have to get advices from other people to solve their problems.